I recently had an experience which made me realized the more I fought a feeling, the more it controlled me. I was subsiding my emotions for my own reasons. When I thought I finally had it under control, it suddenly surface in the least expect time and place. My mind was blank and I was not my self, tears just overflowed.
From this experience I learned I needed to be true to my emotions and sometimes needed to release it without worrying about its outcome. One friend told me not to apologize for my emotion, they are part of me, the real me. People who value you and cherish you will not forsake you. They will listen and be considerate of you. As for those who mistreat or think badly of you, it’s really not your doing. It’s their thoughts and actions which are not your responsibilities. We are each responsible for our own actions and thoughts. Their evil thoughts about you does not equal you are evil. Their thoughts stem from within in their own creation. Then how could we overcome what bother us? Today I read the following, it turned a light on for me.
“Replace negative thoughts rather than resisting them. Whatever you resist, persists. The more you fight a feeling, the more it controls you. The secret of victory over any temptation is simply to change the channel of your mind. Refocus your attention on some-thing else, and the temptation immediately loses its power over you.”
~ The Daniel Plan, page 26
Refocus! What a powerful switch that flips and transforms our thoughts. Instead of focusing on the broken glass, focus on the beautiful sparkles that broken glass creates ^_^
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